The Third Time is Harder…

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If you think being pregnant is hard, tiring and a toll on your body than you are 100% right. If you think that’s hard then you can easily sympathize with someone who is pregnant with toddlers, ok scratch that. Someone who is pregnant with toddlers and no car. Wait! Double scratch that! Someone who is pregnant with toddlers, no car in a chaotic city of Cairo and no husband around.

O M G..Who is that? You might ask..

Well, it’s me!!

I really try my hardest to be passed as a “strong” person and maybe I am but damn am I exhausted. I don’t even swear, so that in it self tell you something.

I am tired of people asking me, “So, how do you feel?”

Well, how to do you think I feel?? Ergh, just thinking about this question is making mad!!!! Why don’t you ask instead, “Do you need help?” or “can I take your kids for a couple of hours so you can rest?

Why? I ask, why you don’t ask me those questions? Off course, I am going to say, I’m fine because coincidentally you only ask me how I am feeling, when I am feeling fine not when it’s 1 o’clock in the morning and your back is hurting and your VG is burning.

However, if you want to insist on how I am doing than continue on reading this post because right now I am in range and cannot keep my emotions in tact.

I am not fine..thank you very much…my feet has swollen and that never happened with my two pregnancies.

I am tired of bending over for picking up shit from the floor, cleaning a house constantly that has the ability to always look a mess, sleep deprived due to pregnancy insomnia, sharp back pains that keep me awake when I finally want to sleep and screaming at my children to stop the heck they doing, to the point where I feel like the baby might pop right there and then.

On top of things, everything in Egypt is a chore and complicated. If I step out of my house which I do everyday, I come home exhausted as if I ran a marathon. Then, I can’t sit because if I do, I have toddlers jumping all over me and don’t give a damn if I am carrying another human being who happens to be their sister in my belly.

If I sound pessimistic, negative and even crazy, well it’s because I have kept this feeling deeply inside and I can no longer bare it for my own sake.

On one hand, I can’t complain to my family because after all, I choose to get pregnant which is totally not true. I didn’t want to be pregnant but just never did anything to stop it which in their eyes it’s like a sin to have a lot of kids or something like that. But DAMN, CAN A WOMAN JUST COMPLAIN WHEN SHE IS TIRED WITHOUT BEING JUDGED ALL THE TIME!!!!!???????

On my husband side of the family, it’s completely normal to have a big family and in fact most people in Egypt have a big family, so complaining to them feels like I am being a brat and spoiled teenager. In their perspective this aint suffering, it’s normal.

So, this why I sound crazy cuz literally I have no one to talk about my true feelings and it’s really affecting my mood and making me very stressed all the time.

I want to end this post with a little fact about me…

When I was 9 years old, I came home from school and told my mom a joke I had learned that day. My mom was laughing her eyes out and I just thought, “man, I got my mom laughing at my jokes!!” One day at a family gathering, everyone was telling jokes and laughing when all the sudden my mom said, “hey, Andrea has a really good joke but you have to put aside her age and just listen to the joke as if an adult is telling it.” At this point everyone is engaged and eager to hear the joke. When I finished telling the joke that no one laughed at, I can never forget the prolonged  angry look that my dad mad at my mom and I. He screamed and was furious at us in front of everyone and that is something that my dad never did before so I was really scared at that point. His range was all due to the fact that the whole joke was full of cussing words, actually the joke was about these words.

That was a pivotal moment and after that I just never dared to say a swear in my childhood moments. With that said, if I ever swear either on writing or speaking, it’s because I am in complete range!!!!!!!!!

On another note, if you have read so far, well thank you a million for sticking around and rest assure I am not a crazy person. Just a prego woman with extra feelings boiling inside and just having wrote this is feeling much better, even my back pain has subsided.

Goodnight,

Andrea

Happy Anniversary on WordPress

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I received a notification today from WordPress letting me know that today is my 4 year Anniversary from the day I decided to blog.

I first started to blog because I was really interesting in photography. I had no background experience or training in photography but I just enjoyed the creative aspect of taking photos.

Soon, I discovered that I liked to write my thoughts and experiences along with my photos. I haven’t been persistent on this blog and to be honest, I don’t really know quite yet what I mainly want to focus and achieve through blogging. All I know is that I enjoy it so I am just going to keep on writing and posting until I know what I want to focus on.

I also want to be consistent and try at least do 4 posts a month. With the new baby coming soon, I rather start this new habit as soon as possible so I don’t fall behind and just give up on it.

With that said, if you follow and read my post thank you so much for taking the time of your day to read my thoughts. I want to build a community and would love to read your thoughts too. What do you like to read the most? What blogs and posts do you enjoy?

Traveling Alone With Kids

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After 5 years, I finally went back to my home country but I had 3 little obstacles. First, I was traveling from Egypt with my two toddlers alone 2) while breastfeeding and 3) being 4 months pregnant. My husband’s family upon hearing the news that I was traveling, exclaimed;

“Zey, y3ni.” How, (y3ni) stressing on the impossibility of this action.

My family upon my arrival stated;

“Nao sei como fizeste essa viagem. I don’t know how you did this trip.

Basically, I left Cairo in the dawn hours and had a 13 hour layover in Morocco and finally from Casablanca to Cape Verde. I have to say a lot of preparation and research was involved before the trip.

In this post I will list some tips I’ve learned through my journey of traveling alone with toddlers.

  1. Travel light! I actually traveled lighter than ever in my life but I still feel like I could have traveled even lighter which leads me to the second point.
  2. If you are traveling to your home country than bring almost nothing or just the essentials for one week. Believe me your family will shower you with gifts, especially for your kids and you will be doing a tones of shopping.
  3. Prepare a variety of nutritious food for the trip. Skip the chips and candy because your kids will be exposed to extra germs and will be dehydrated which brings their immune system down. Making sure that they have a good variety of nutritious snacks will ensure that they will not get sick during the trip.
  4. Be extra prepared! Bring extra clothe in your carry-on, diapers, plastic bags (in case of any potty accidents) and wipes.
  5. Prepare your kids excitement before the trip. My youngest couldn’t understand it but I still communicated about the adventure we were about to embark on. I pointed to the sky every time I saw a plane and told them we were going to be on that too.
  6. Surprise the kids with the knew toys on the plane. The plane we were on did not have individual screens so having knew toys defiantly kept them excited for a while.
  7. Stickers and playdo work like magic, believe me! They could play with the stickers and playdo for hours.
  8. Bring a toy that they love. Knowing that they have something with them that they love, ensures security during a very unfamiliar environment.
  9. Be patient! This is not the time to be a strict parent, like me. You have to allow your child to do things that you would often not allow back home.
  10. Show excitement through your body language. I had to always be cheerful and playful throughout the trip so they knew that we were on a fun adventure.

I hope these tips will serve you well, whether you are traveling with your kids alone or not. Traveling alone with kids is totally possible and not that hard but takes a lot of patients and resistance. Rest assure that when you arrive to your destination it will all be worth it.